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Very few parents think that their children are engaging in sex; however the reality is that many are at a very young age. We would like to know your thoughts on if or when young girls should go on birth control.
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will putting my 15 year old dauther on birth control pills ,increase or decrease her desire too have sex
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Tom - I thought I would respond to your post because this is a question my husband and I have discussed at great length. My husband's opinion is that "yes" putting a girl on birth control will make her more apt to want to have sex. I on the other hand totally disagree with this opinion. I don't think being on birth control has any baring on whether a teenage girl is going to have sex or not. And before you ask, I don't believe being on birth control makes the decision to have sex an easier decision either. Having said all of this, I believe that if the decision has been made to put our daughters on birth control, it should be made only after having had an open, completely honest (at least on the parents part) conversation with her. She should be made aware that although I am NOT giving her "free rein" I am acknowledging that having sex is a very real possibility and although I am not happy with this decision I will, as a parent who will love her unconditionally, do all that I can to protect her future. In my personal experience, I went a step further and sat the boyfriend down and was very blunt. I told him that I do believe he and my daughter are not having sex right now but that I don't kid myself into believing that they might not make that decision in the future. I let him know that she and I had made the decision to put her on birth control for several reasons, one being that someday she will decide the time is right to have sex, but that I expected him to always, always respect my daughter's wishes and that if they eventually make sex their decision then he must respect her enough to always wear a condom. I also made it very clear to both of them that I was not condoning this choice but that I felt it was my responsibility, as a parent, to make sure they had a future of their choosing not one that was chosen for them because of "raging hormones." Having heard from my daughter and her boyfriend's friends who knew about the conversation I had with both of them, because they shared not I, I know I made the best decision for my daughter. I feel I have respected them both and have done all that I can to protect her future.
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