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Is it okay for two people getting married to ask for cash? It seems inappropriate. What do you think?
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I wouldn't ask for cash, but if a close relative offers to give cash, I'd accept graciously (assuming of course that I need it). I attended two Italian weddings in the past and gave cash because I was told that this was the custom.
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The problem with giving cash - even if it's the custom like in Italian weddings - is the amount. How much is appropriate? How much is too much and how much is stingy? I was told that if one isn't sure, the idea is to go by the cost per plate of an elegant and huge reception. So if you're attending a reception in a 5-star hotel and the spread is quite generous - then I'd say $150.00 per guest would be good? Has anyone else been in this dilemma?
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If we can't find a gift to suit the couple, we usually spend about a hundred buck
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I think it's a matter of tradition and beliefs. It also depends to the groom or bride. In our place, the relative and close friends are the one giving offerings.
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If it's not a close friend, my husband and I will give $50 - $100. If it's a relative we give much more plus help out where we can with the ceremony. I'd rather give money unless there's a gift registry involved. That way we know they're getting something they can use.
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I haven`t been to very many weddings that they ask for cash. Some have done the dollar dance, where you give a dollar to dance with the bride or groom.
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Why not? Honesty is the best policy.
How about "presence not presents?"
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I was not sure I understood the original question correctly - Is it okay for two people getting married to ask for cash. I assumed you were speaking about wedding gifts; it looks like the rest of the crowd has made the same assumption. Is that correct? Do you mean they ask to give them money, not gifts? If so, I don't see any problem with that.
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I wouldn't ask for cash. That is too embarassing. If a couple wants to get married, then they have to work hard for it, not ask someone for donations.
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I'm not into that idea. The couple should work to earn for the wedding expenses. They shouldn't ask for money from anyone.
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Joined: 10/3/2008
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I don't think it would be so terrible if a couple asked for money instead of a gift. When I go to a wedding I always give a check because I don't really know what the couple would like even if they are registered somewhere. At least with a check the couple can use the money where they need it most, be it for an appliance or to help pay for something.
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I personally would have preferred a gift card or cash to some of the ridiculous gifts I received at my wedding. But, I would have never thought to ask for cash, too embarassing. I guess it's the thought that counts.
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