If you are one of the lucky ones in this world, then you have married into a family in which you get along well with the in-laws. Prior to marriage, it is difficult to see just how large an impact that the extended in-law family, from brother/sister in laws, to cousin and parent in laws, can have on your marriage.
Bottom line is this! Everyone wears the clothes and uses the towels, sheets and covers in the home, and EVERYONE, should take part in caring for them. If you aren’t handing over some of this responsibility to your teenager, you have little room to complain because THEY ARE CAPABLE!
When you stood on the aisle in front of God and your friends; decided that the person holding your hand was you forever person…you never thought of divorce. But probably more than half of the people witnessing this special event were thinking in their own heads whether or not you would actually make it!
By showing up late, whether 15 minutes or an hour, you are (purposefully or not) saying through your actions that your friend’s, coworker’s, or teacher’s time is not valuable to you. You are also breaking a verbal commitment to them which breaks any trust that they might have in you.
Out of nowhere your husband tells you that they are leaving, they are shacking up with one of their co-workers. Now what? Could you pay for the current mortgage? Would you be able to put food on the table, pay for gas (or insurance) for your car?
I don't think there's a single couple planning to marry who thinks that they'll get a divorce someday. Of course it's always legally an option, but who wants divorce in the back of their mind while they're walking down the aisle? Marrying for life is usually, and hopefully, the highest goal of the engaged.
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Barbara Jaurequi is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and a Nationally Certified Master Addiction Counselor. Her private practice, Barbara Jaurequi Counseling, is in southern CA, about 30 miles east of Los Angeles.
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