 With more technology will come more connections that we never thought possible. However, these connections must add value to our lives – in our real lives, if we truly want to be connected to other people.  Most people at some point will use the “It’s my parents fault” excuse. Even if they do not outwardly admit it, in their minds they are thinking, ‘I am fat because my parents were,” or “I’m broke because my folks were bad with money.” “I drink because my dad did and I can’t cook because my mom was a bad cook.”  Your marriage sucks. You know this. Your spouse knows this. The two of you are getting to the point where passing and re-passing throughout your daily life is becoming emotionally and physically exhausting.  You have them, your in laws have them, your children have them, and your neighbors, boss, co-workers, and nearly every other person on the planet have their own opinion about everything from politics to the right foods to eat at dinnertime.  In most parts of your life, there is a good chance that you only speak half your mind, and that you save a lot of frustration, anger and disappointment inside your head to avoid conflict.  Is there a particular reason why you stay stuck in an unhappy relationship, settle for a job that doesn’t fulfill you, cannot own a better car, are unable to get that Blog you have been dreaming of up and off the ground?  Since our past so often includes people we loved, or people we were in relationships with – chances are you (and your partner) have some pictures of your ex lying around. Emotionally mature partners have to be acceptant of the fact that you come with a past, right? And that past may or may not include pictures.  In many ways, many people today are living their life as victims. They are giving up their rights to choose, to succeed, and to create their own destiny by sitting back and waiting for the scrappy handouts that are left behind. And then, with audacity – these same people feel they have the rights to complain about what they were given.  Communication experts recommend that adults stand their ground when it comes to conversation etiquette with both kids and adults. If someone interrupts you, rather than stand back gritting your teeth and fantasizing about stuffing a bread roll in their mouth – say, “Excuse me, but I was talking.”  Think about it. You are a frail human in a tumultuous world. You can't count on tomorrow. And you can't afford to defer your dreams to some far-off future that may never come. It is time now to start living your life the way you want to live it. The time to shine - is now.  Chances are that you have had a time in your life when you were facing problems and challenges and simply shrugged them off to the outside world. If a friend asked you how you were, you would likely smile and say that you were okay, or great even – only to be feeling awful on the inside.  Let’s be realistic for a minute. If your significant other has been a jerk for weeks and you finally vented and caused a rift between the two of you, do the flowers and sweet note that show up at your office the next day really make everything all better?  The question of living in a politically correct world comes down to this. Just as each of us have the First Amendment right that entitles us to freedom of speech – an imaginary line of ethical and moral communication is being elicited which quickly severs our freedom to have our beliefs and speak them in public.  The problem is that while you are pretending to ignore the idiotic behaviors of others – and to bite your tongue rather than tell people how you really feel, you are still reeling with anger, resentment, or frustration about what happened.  Owning a pet, or bringing one into your home shouldn't be a snap, un-thought out decision based on one person’s simple desire. And begging, and pouting and making resentful comments because you didn’t get your way is a child-like response to a situation that involves a great deal of responsibility in the long run.  Most marriages at some point or another – turn out to be marriages of conveniences so to speak. And convenient is good. Maybe not uber exciting and passionate – but good nonetheless.  The question is why are we, as women – so judgmental of one another when it comes to sex? Although, you would think this behaviour would subside after the hormonal fluctuations of the teen years, the truth is it doesn’t.  Every year at the annual Thanksgiving family get together, Uncle Bob and Aunt Charlene end up drunk and entertaining the entire family with a Jerry Spring style argument in the front yard. Your dad sits in his chair watching the football game grimacing and groaning about how poorly the Broncos are doing, without getting up to give your mom a hand.  The lack of common sense boils down to two things. Selfishness and ego. People today place so much stock in being right all the town, in winning – even when there is nothing to win or lose, that they have lost touched with the most basic of human functions.Common sense.  Whether it be a simple shout out to their spouse or a quick mention of their child’s teacher – or heck, a quick *like* on a status from someone that you are trying to impress, but don’t really care for – Facebook has become the ultimate resource for brown nosing.
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